Stop Shaming the Skinny

I am upset, scratch that, I am really frickin’ annoyed at the remarks that have been made about a mannequin in the window of La Perla. The upscale lingerie company put a mannequin in their window that, oh horrors, showed her ribs! Michael Rudroy tweeted this:

How does #LaPerla think ribs on a mannequin is ok?!

The Twitter world became enraged and the tweeted responses have included words and phrases like “unheathy”, “anorexic”, “why would anyone think this is sexy or attractive?”, and many other disparaging and shaming remarks. Now La Perla is removing the mannequin because of the outcry.

The crazy thing is that this mannequin represents my body type. I am almost thirty-nine years old, have had a baby and have never dieted in my life. I have never binged and purged, never starved myself and I have never been considered to be unhealthy by my doctor or family. Take a little curve away from the breasts and add a bit to the hips, and that mannequin could be me.

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According to the majority of responses on Twitter, I should be ashamed of this body that I was born with.

Usually, I stay out of the weight and body image conversations. It makes me uncomfortable when women start talking about weight because I feel like I have nothing to say that wouldn’t be discounted or judged.

I am tired of feeling like I have no voice in the body image conversation just because I am naturally skinny. Can we stop shaming the skinny just because we are on a mission to stop shaming curves? Can we stop calling skinny women “unhealthy”?

No matter what your body type is, if you are a woman, you have likely felt shamed at some point in your life. It is rarely acceptable to shame another human for anything because you have not walked in their body, with their experiences.

If I ever start killing baby animals for the fun of it, you can feel free to shame me. But if you see my ribs when I wear my bikini, please don’t assume negative things about me.

Stop shaming the skinny. Stop shaming the curves. Stop shaming the bodies of others.

12 Comments

  • Rilla says:

    Misty, I’ve known you since I was 5 and you were 6 years old, and I can attest to the fact you are, and always have been, naturally slim. I was there when all the other girls in our class were getting breasts and hips and yours were not as endowed as some of us (me). Just because we are on opposite ends of the body shape spectrum doesn’t mean either of us is of more or less value than the other. We are both compassionate intelligent women who love our families and value our friendships. We both like to savour good quality food and the only difference is your body burns it off, and mine doesn’t. It’s a physiological difference that has NOTHING to do with our value as a person. I’m glad you’re addressing this issue. Acceptance and love for all!! I feel a blog post coming on… stay tuned!!

  • don says:

    Be proud of your skinny good looking body…you are a beauty both inside and out!!!

  • Julie says:

    I haven’t seen the story or read all the comments, but the mannequin with three distinctly protruding ribs (especially directly under a substantial bosom – in reality the two don’t generally go together) looks ridiculously manufactured.. And nothing like your normal, healthy, beautiful ribs. Mannequins should be more reflective of the common female physique. Unfortunately traditionally they’re uber slim with big boobs, at least a few sizes below the norm. Which isn’t to say that’s wrong, it just sets a tough standard for many of us to aspire to. And those that do reflect the average female body size are considered “plus-sized”. But of course the bottom line is shaming of any body type is completely uncalled for.

    • Grace says:

      I disagree. My bra size is 28FF. My ribs show. My boobs are huge.

      • Ashley M says:

        You guys are all missing the point…. It’s not that it’s ugly and gross or unhealthy. But it’s what our young girls see, and then they feel as if they need to look like that in order to wear those type of clothes. This isn’t shaming tiny people.. It’s shaming everyone! If that’s your body type, then great! Although from your picture.. Not even YOU are as skinny as that mannoquin! Not to mention some of the others I’ve seen… Generally, looking like that IS unhealthy. I couldn’t ever look like that unless I stopped eating or puked up everything I ate! And I consider myself to have an average body! As a young girl, if I saw that, I’d feel like I couldn’t wear that outfit if I didn’t look just as skinny as that mannoquin! I’m sorry people said those things, but they were not referring to YOU. As I said most people are not naturally that small where you can clearly make out each individual rib, which again.. I didn’t even see that in YOUR picture… It’s not disgusting if that is your natural body type.. What is disgusting is that THIS is what we are telling girls they HAVE to look like in order to be beautiful…. Or wear those types of clothes…

  • Corrina says:

    I agree. All this buddy talk tends to be tricky. I was just discussing with a friend how my friends and family judge and assess when I haven’t eaten enough or miss a meal but never say a word if I eat an extra donut. Everything is all messed up. We should just keep quiet and love ourselves.

  • Dannah says:

    Thank you. Thank you. I have been venting about that alllllllll week since the “uproar” began. I’ve been skinny shamed by grown ups and peers since I was about 10 years old. It’s nauseating, I used to have a witty comeback for it, but now that I’m an adult, a witty comeback only masks the true issue. All body types are beautiful. I can’t gain 10 lb if I try. I’m not sorry if you have the opposite problem, I’m not sorry if you are jealous, and spiteful as a result.

    EVERYONE IS BEAUTIFUL.

    That mannequin very accurately depicted my body type if I’m wearing a padded bra… And if plus size women deserve to feel beautiful and normal, so should those of us who are less endowed…..

    – sick of being judged-

  • Annie says:

    Ummm, sorry to tell you that although you may be thin your body doesn’t resemble this mannequin at all. I really don’t see the comparison. Maybe you need to take a better look. The mannequin looks deathly ill.

  • Not the same. says:

    There is nothing wrong with being thin, or thick. But when a mannequin is in a store window, where little girls can walk by and see it, and said mannequin is SO thin where you can see every individual rib, there IS something wrong with that. We as adults can understand that people are different, that we come in different shapes and sizes, but little girls do not. Also, when was the last time we saw a thicker mannequin rocking some lingerie, or a bathing suit? Never. Because skinny has always been the sexier, more desired look, and that is sad to say the least. Our little girls need to see ALL shapes in the window, not just the slim who look sickly, because they assume that they should then look up to this. I wouldn’t have a problem with this display if her ribs were not so prominent, and to say it’s natural is not accurate as this is made of plastic and not flesh. They could have used a mannequin that better displays what beautiful AND healthy looks like.

  • Not the same. says:

    Not all the slim are sickly, some like yourself are naturally thin. However, there are many girls who are not naturally thin, but force their bodies to get there. I think part of this reason is because thin woman are plastered everywhere, and not enough thick woman are. We need a balance, and right now we don’t have that. If we want our girls to not have body issues, we as a society need to display all shapes and sizes, and department stores need to be careful what they are promoting. This mannequin looks sickly, no matter how you try and bend it. Seeing individual ribs is not healthy, whether some girls like yourself have natural protruding ribs, this is a plastic figure. Seeing ribs makes one think of anorexia, which is a dangerous disease. My point is they didn’t need to show the ribs, your ribs are not the same as these ones. Not even close.

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